Thank you all for being so supportive in sending us your questions. We absolutely love the discussions that come from these.
This is the Ziglar show, episode 444. Today Tom Ziglar and I answer your questions, literal questions from the listeners from this specific show and issues that we have covered, most from our recent shows as of lay. Though it is interesting to have questions in such a range of topics we end up on some comment threads on need and inside. This will be fun.
[01:13] Hey folks! This is Kevin Miller, your show host of the Zigglar show and this is one of the Q&A show that we insert every one from outside brought Tom Ziglar on. We just candidly went through a list of literal submissions from you guys, the listening audience, you sent in. I gave you the information folks because here people ask specific questions in regards of specific shows. So in the past shows or this show, you can always go to ziglarshow.com or zigshow.com and on the top tab is the ask button. You can submit it right there. You can submit it as an audio if you want. Record your voice or you can just simply email us at [email protected] Please do that, you are welcome to ask the questions, give us an idea, resource comes to mind if you want to and if you got something that concerning to you. You are welcome to put it in there and we will try to address questions.
[03:39]“Please please please do a show about this combo of elements. As an actor, artist and filmmaker, when I’m riding the high wave, I am often asked how I am able to sustain a career doing what I love. It’s a great feeling to be in this position, one I am always grateful of. But… When I’m on a low wave I ask myself that very same question. I would love to hear a Ziglar perspective podcast on this.
[04:29] – All to often we judge our success based on the applause of the audience. We judge ourselves on the results we get rather than on the hard work we put in. People’s acceptance of us and applause of us isn’t why we are doing it.
[07:01] There is a human perspective of: “everyday has to be getting better.” The reality is that you can’t have constant progress everyday. Your “lifetime success graph” is going to have ups and downs, you are going to have many failures, but overall what you should be looking for is the upwards slope.
[09:05] So I love you for what you do rather than who you are.
[09:15] Actionable Question for listeners: Do I love myself because of what I do, or because of who I am and whose I am?
[10:43] Build a support system. Don’t isolate yourself as you are working your way through the highs and the lows.
“I have a comment about the show you did with Dan Miller where you talked about needing passion, talent and money. Michael Hyatt did a podcast episode earlier this year (can’t find it after a quick search) where he talked about needing passion, proficiency and profits – same idea, just using alliteration!”
[11:44] – Tom and Kevin discuss this comment in depth: Solomon said “There’s nothing new under the sun.”
[12:50] One of the great definition of a great speaker is to communicate a timeless message in a timely way. So the culture today, the way we communicate is different today. And we are far better can dig deep down and find out what our talent is and how can maximize it. And then we add passion to mix it with talent. That is the key.
[14:46] What are the things which are sustainable?
[16:16] Who knows what God has keep for us for the next year, technology, things will be changed. Then what is it that we need to preserve is we can reserve our soul. It is about wisdom, care and integrity, love and relations, honest, all those things matters.
[18:12] When you get all the great speakers, leaders guys all together, generally they are landing on the same tenants of success. And if you look deeper you will find that speaking with different audiences sometime, new answers can come, but overall we are all talking about the same aspects of success.
[18:45] What is the name of the person you recently have in the show with the Monday morning briefing and you talked about highly talented people who felt failure. I don’t see the podcast on the site. By the way I love the clips from Zig.
[19:03] Roy Williams, the show 426 – the talented person blind spot, that show got an extra amount of downloads. So why does William’s show have more downloads than others. It is the best we understand is that you listen to one and you find enough value and you let other people know. And the newsletter you mentioned is the Monday morning memo. It was the longest newsletter subscription that I ever had with any other blog and it is the only one on which I look at it every time without fail.
[20:55] I recently listened to your podcast on reacting vs responding and I loved it. This is being the number one driving force behind my pursuit of personal development since the beginning. As I know that any success that involves my loved ones is empty without success with them. Looking back, I was always short tempered and reactive natured. And once I was aware enough of who I was and who I want to be I have been working on it. I have worked extremely hard on my physical health and now I am a fitness and nutrition coach and pediatric physical therapist. I am still working on my sleep as it is my downfall but I have tried many different tactics to remind myself to my family to stop and respond rather than react. I am pretty sticky around my house, keeping reminders to my kids. Sometimes become short tempered and I am still struggling with it. Any advice will be welcome.
[23:15] I have a question that have you ever accidentally downloaded the virus or have you ever got the message on your computer that hard drive is almost full. You usually ignored it until it got crashed. I think reacting all the time is because we have some virus or our hard drive is full. It means we preprogram ourselves, we keep telling us that we can’t take anymore and in that level we got under pressure. In your daily self talk you are planting that seed, no matter what the situation is, you are gonna respond and you are gonna learn some simple techniques, you are gonna take more breathes, you are gonna backup a little. That is gonna put the virus away and put the new operating system in place.
[26:20] Why not take out the best from the situation!
[28:45] Hey Kevin and Tom, I wanna tell you both how much I enjoyed & appreciate the podcast, I am a huge fan of Zig. Its been such a positive influence in my life. Especially enjoyed the episode 425 on blame as this is the message I need to hear off then. I would love it if you have more episodes on blame and personal accountability as I see this is the big problem in our society today. It would be awesome if you bring John G. Miller, author of QBQ and flipping the switch as a guest on your podcast to address this topic, and it will be fascinating to hear all three of you.
[31:17] Has any great thing accomplish by the blame? If you see on the two perspective, one is if am I creating a reputation, that’s a right kind of reputation and second is what is the benefit of blame. There is almost no benefit of blame. When you create a right reputation, you are surrounded by the right kind of people, they are alias, they fight battle for you. That is even more powerful. Leaders accept responsibilities of the situations that they had very little to do with. They can easily get on with but they know that if they need the progress they have to do it.
[33:40] When we blame someone we are actually giving control to them over us. But what we should do is to take control.
[38:17] The show 431 which was the title pay the price now to avoid the cost later, Kevin talks about his friend who does the neuro therapy with dementia patients. Could you please give us more info on his work? My dad has dementia, age 70, my sister has it, two of brothers had it and died from it in 42 and I am definitely interested in it.
[39:00] He is Kris Edward and here is his number 719-761-6048.
[42:57] There is not a magic, there is not the one thing we can do but if we develop the relationship and have conversations and play the brain oriented or puzzles on the computer, eat right, doing exercises and all will slowly decrease the possibility of having dementia. But some people have the genetic issue, for that we can not do anything but those are very rare. We are talking about the 98% people.
[43: 40] In the end, it is whether we try to get the good brain health, or create a winning life, there is just not the one thing, it is all the right things in the package that makes the difference.
[44:37] Hi Kevin and Tom, I have been listening to your podcast and I loved it. I heard you say that the different podcast at Zig are studied and reading for three hours everyday. I am wandering how much of that is dedicated to personal development and how much to career development or other pursuits. Do you have recommendation for how much time you spent each day reading what? Do you have books or other materials for recommendation? Thank you very much. Can I please remain anonymous?
[45:16] Zigs are known for reading so much. I think the vast majority was around the real life. So when you look at the real we got the men, family, the financial, the personal, the career. So the one seventh of that real is professional, the career. So day by day, the one seventh of this reading is around career.
[48:30] The seven spokes on the real life is the mental, the physical, spiritual, the family, financial, personal and career.
[49:08] I wanna thank Kevin Miller for covering the topic of being likeable in his recent podcast episode. It was great to hear Zig Ziglar audio on that theme. I actually implemented the couple of tips today when hosting a meet for coffee type gathering with some fellow professional. I noticed good vibes across the table and it made me feel good inside. Currently I am in a job search as one of the topic covered by Kevin in likeable in searching for new opportunity. Thank you and keep up the show.
[51:15] We used to treat people no better and no worse than we treat us. That is why when I see someone being rude, I got an emotion in my body, I am kind of obsessed because it is wrong and I really feel sorry for them. Because I keep imagine what they are telling themselves inside their head. I like being likeable and I mean I love mean Lovable, that is fantastic. The key of being likeable or loveable is that it is not about me, there are other people inside the room.
[54:25] We are talking about being likeable which meant to me is showing respect to other people, feel that respect, feel that care, feel that love, that is primarily the things to understand.
[59:05] So folks just go to the ziglar.com and check for Christmas packages to gift for some others.