Setting goals can be tough. Make sure you have a clear perspective of your vision on where and who you want to be.

Failure is an event, not a person. If you miss the date but you’re almost there, don’t let the disappointment keep you from completing the objective. Give yourself grace to re-adjust.

Setting long-term goals can make a huge impact on the smaller goals we set every day. Give yourself a chance to feel small bursts of achievement as you make progress towards your large goal.

 

Some comments mentioned in today’s show:

Comment: I write my annual goal in November/December, then check in monthly, mark progress and completions. Short-term annual goals are easier to conceptualize, but I’ve yet to write down goals beyond 12 months out. Would love be able to have a 3-5 year outlook, but it’s been a challenge. Grateful for annual goals, but that still feels a bit short-sighted.

Comment: For a long time I believed that if I wrote down my goals and did not achieve them within my posted time frame, it would be concrete proof that I was a failure. I also somehow was embarrassed by wanting and dreaming for having more than I already had… deep down I did not think I deserved more. It has taken years of self-improvement, in many, many different forms, to discover those false beliefs. I had them for so long that I never discussed them, I never questioned them; to me they were just facts, no different than the sky is blue and the grass is green. (It was not easy for me to admit this here.)

Comment: Sometimes it’s thinking that you know where the road leads at the end, and not writing goals down is a risk of time and a loss of direction towards the bigger picture.

Comment: After my husband passed I retired from a career that was rewarding. I was diagnosed with kidney disease and have been doing dialysis for seven years. I was always an ardent goal-setter in my youth. These days I pray to the Holy Spirit to use my days for His will.

Comment: I’m afraid of failing. Of course, failing is completely insignificant. I’m really afraid of the way I’ll mentally abuse myself if I fail. So not even writing the goal down prevents me from even taking my desire seriously. I don’t have to deal with the results at all…because I never even tried. I can pretend I didn’t really want to do it. It was just a cute thought.

Show Transcription:

[00:00] Welcome to the Ziglar Show. I’m your host, Kevin Miller, and today we’re talking about goals, and specifically…struggles we have with them. In show 481 we talked with Mark Sanborn, author of The Potential Principle. We asked him what his favorite Zig quote was and he gave us this:

[00:22] Sanborn clip

[01:28] So we created a great inspirational quote poster that says, What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals – Zig Ziglar. And we posted it on the Ziglar Facebook page with this question: If you understand the value of goals but have still not written them out for your life and desires, why?

[01:55] We got a lot of responses and picked out five we felt were highly relevant for everyone. Acclaimed Ziglar speaker Michelle Prince joins me to co-host a very real discussion on the struggles we all have with…goals.

[02:17] If you want to give thanks to Zig Ziglar and his legacy, please leave a review in iTunes to help other people find the message.

[02:27] Here, then, is Michelle Prince as we address your comments on goals:

[02:32] So, Michelle, goal setting is the topic here and we have great questions coming in, but I am gonna dive in and put you on the spot. Have you had any issues or challenges in your own goal settings initiatives?

[02:50] Yes, I hate to admit it because I know better, especially having worked for Zig. So many years ago, I was actually exposed to the Performance Planner and Zig’s seven goal setting formula and I was 18 years old. So I know better what to do. But I do struggle, because setting consistency — and goals sometimes may not be the right goal. So I have struggled for years.

[03:47] So 18, I have a good story for that. I was 15 years old, 1986, and I am at a Ziglar conference and — I think — me and my dad help sell a product in the back as volunteers, and felt it was an honor to do that. And I bought a goals planner. I got the thing, we stood in line, I got Zig’s autograph, and I cherished it so much, I never cracked it open. And today I have a brand new 1986 goals planner. That is what we’re gonna talk about today, is how do we dive in and actually get going? So, we’ve got a handful of questions, I think four or five here, which people posted on Facebook. Here comes the first one.

[04:58] Gregory Byerline: I write my annual goal in November/December, then check in monthly, mark progress and completions. Short-term, annual goals are easier to conceptualize, but I’ve yet to write down goals beyond 12 months out. Would love to have a three-to-five-year outlook, but it’s been a challenge. Grateful for annual goals, but that still feels a bit short-sighted.

[06:28] So we all have to have a vision for our life, for our family, business, and so those are long-range goals. But the purpose of goal setting is giving little increments. So, actually, the purpose of goal setting is to take a bigger and longer goal and break it down into little chunks. And the fact is that he is doing that and for the 12-month period it is awesome. So If you don’t have the short term goals, you are not able to focus on the long term goals.

[07:58] But today, at 46, I definitely have some longer term goals. Experiences I want to have, things I want to achieve, and I find it helps the short-term decisions in a big way. I fully understand. I often think my desires will change in three-five years, or I think whatever long-term goal I’ve put down I’ll actually achieve a lot sooner! Maybe it’s harder when you are younger, too.

[09:05] Robin Lee Avon: For a long time, I believed that if I wrote down my goals and did not achieve them within my posted time frame, it would be concrete proof that I was a failure. The first thought on this Michelle.

[09:30] I think the first thought that came to my mind is building a skyscraper, and you have the deadline to complete it within a year and will you stop because you can’t hit the deadline. No, you will keep building. But you will just move the deadline. Nobody is a failure; you cannot fail. And, like Zig always said, it is an event, it is not a person. And just because you didn’t hit the date, maybe the date doesn’t fit appropriately.

[12:36] Rob actually went on and this is the second part. I also somehow was embarrassed by wanting and dreaming for having more than I already had… deep down I did not think I deserved more.

[13:15] If just self-gratification, yes.

  • But what would they do for you? Would a pool help you get with the exercise, inspiration, and you are then a better spouse, parent, friend?
  • Personal achievement – if just for status and selfishness, but what about multiplying your talents?
  • Character achievement – patience, compassion

[14:30] One of the questions inside the seven steps of goal setting is whether it is fairly correct to involve everyone, and the answer is yes, why not?

[18:10] The third part is this: It has taken years of self-improvement, in many, many different forms, to discover those false beliefs. I had them for so long that I never discussed them, I never questioned them, to me they were just facts, no different than the sky is blue and the grass is green. (It was not easy for me to admit this here.)

[18:40] First, I will say thank you so much, Robin, for stepping out! Huge gift to us and SO many others! To me they were just the facts – that is huge. We don’t know what we don’t know.

[20:00] I just have to say to Robin that I can so relate to you. And, truthfully, why I had been trapped for so many years is because of the negative thoughts — and you “know” they are facts and “you can’t help it.” This is what you have been always told. And we believe what we are told, especially by people in a position of authority or so-called care over our lives…parents, older siblings, classmates, educators.

[26:01] Keketso Motsapi: Sometimes it’s thinking that you know where the road leads at the end, and not writing goals down is a risk of time and a loss of direction towards the bigger picture. Now, I read a few things in the aspect of that, you know, for setting specific goals and not paying attention to the bigger picture, and I think that is relevant. But brings me to the quote we used on Facebook of “What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” That is the bigger picture, but without specific goals, then we are aimless. Goal setting is mental programming. So that is one of the things I read about, but what thoughts come to you, Michelle?

[27:45] Well, just to add to that, it is one of the good reasons we pay attention to short-term goals, we do have some sort of pride in ourselves after we complete something. Even if it is small, it is the feeling of accomplishment. And that feeling actually kind of becomes like a snowball to that. But if you’re doing the long-term goals and you never get that kind of excitement of saying, “Oh, yes, I did it!”, then you are not going to get the benefit of that quote.

[30:58] Lisa Cole: After my husband passed, I retired from a career that was rewarding. I was diagnosed with kidney disease and have been doing dialysis for seven years. I was always an ardent goal-setter in my youth. These days I pray to the Holy Spirit to use my days for His will.

[31:45] I agree, and I understand the desire to serve. But I give you an analogy for this: Before I wrote my first book, I felt kind of led to do that. So, to follow it, I also set the goals. So I think it is a combination of listening to the Holy Spirit and taking what you hear and putting it into an action plan. Because, otherwise, I agree with you, it is risky.

[35:48] Michael D. Martin: I’m afraid of failing. Of course, failing is completely insignificant. I’m really afraid of the way I’ll mentally abuse myself if I fail. So not even writing the goal down prevents me from even taking my desire seriously. I don’t have to deal with the results at all.because I never even tried. I can pretend I didn’t really want to do it. It was just a cute thought.

[37:40] If you are not going to set a goal, you are guaranteed to fail. So what you fear most is really what you are doing to yourself, because you absolutely cannot win. So, like I said earlier, failure is an event, it is not a person. When you fail, you learn something to do in a different way. So why not setting a goal?

[44:07] Friends, thanks for tuning in to the Ziglar Show. Next week we start our new format, where we don’t just do a single interview with a guest, but a series. I think you’ll like it. I hope you’ll like it! And if you’re getting value here, again…the best way to pay homage to Zig Ziglar and the legacy is…leave us a review on iTunes. Thanks for being with us as we walk together…inspiring our true performance!

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