[00:12] Welcome to The Ziglar Show, I’m your host Kevin Miller and today we have Jordan Harbinger of The Art of Charm fame back with us after our main interview in the last episode, talking social skills. In this show we are going behind the scenes with Jordan to look at his own personal development. Where is he strong, where is he week, what are his personal habits to help inspire HIS true performance? If you didn’t catch the first show, episode 489, make sure you get it, it’s truly significant. And if you get value, you know what to do, please leave a review in iTunes and let us know!
[01:00] Here then I bring you, round two with Jordan Habringer.
[01:09] Alright Jordan, we went deep into your personal development enterprise and a gigantic issue of emotional value. And you work in the heart of personal development and while hitting so many areas; your primary focus was on relationship. But look at the overall Ziglar wheel of lives, personal, physical, family, mental, financial, spiritual, career, these are the areas where we wanna be fully rounded on personal development and success. I wanna know about Jordan. I mean look at those areas, where are the scopes for you? What are your great strengths?
[02:03] Sure, so there are so many concepts where I feel like, first of all you can’t teach stuffs without adapting it. I definitely think that one of the major concept that really taking me through a lot of garbage and also taking me good time is leaving everything better than you found. And that’s took me a while to realize, this isn’t just being nice to everybody, this could be a simple as ok I need to make this person’s day better and not worse. In place of changing my mood, I need to work on a little bit externally.
[04:15] You are talking about personal awareness and sensitivity and alternatively caring enough about somebody else. I am a people pleasure; it is hard to have those hard conversations out of care. Is that something that came naturally to you?
[05:18] Not really, a little bit of yes. I mean more so I mean my dad was working a lot and my mom was around a lot and she was kind of sensitive person. And I remember early on being in the kind of kid where I be sitting next to a pretty girl and she tells me that her parents are getting divorce. And I was like why are you telling me this. And I be hanging around and talking with other guys. And I remember this having such communication and I can see the channel of communication. However, there were other social channel with I was completely clueless.
[07:38] Well so speaking of channels here, you were talking about your own personal development, your own journey, from where you were before to now, but a long way where has been those areas where you had to work harder?
[08:33] I grew up as an only child and so this sounds so dumb to verbalise, it sometimes hard to remember that you are not the only person in the equation. Because the other people I was dealing with in the equation were my parents. And they were just like we have given everything to our kid. I played sports a lot and I got injured in football and so I got in the administration, and become coach. So it took me a long time even in my business to go, that I need to think about what other people of my age prioritize. A top down decision for me as a football coach in age 15; or me as an only child bugging my parents until they say yes or tell me to go to my room. And it took me a really long time and I still work on these things.
[11:39] You just got married. So in your relationship with Jane in four months, anything relate to surprise you, didn’t realize that I was blind there, a little off there?
[12:01] Let’s see, we were dating for so long before that I feel like not a lot is changed other than it is much more permanent now. We complement each other well, in that she is a very giving person. So I have learned to not let her sound like one of those weird fake things you hear in job interview. So I help her become not less giving but I help her become, had to stop taking too much, because it is easier than thinking about what I can add to relationship.
[13:43] My next question is in regards to how Jordan does and doesn’t want to be proceed by his audience. But to remind you to get engage with the Jordan’s art of charm by joining artofcharm.com.
[16:26] It is a weird balance, because the audience are in so large numbers, I can ask any question about opinion and I got a million replies of both of things. You need to stop worrying about the opinions that contradicts the person you wanna be, because I worried a way too much. It is easy to listen a hundred of people saying that you have changed my life and one person who will criticize you. So you will not think that O my God, I should stop this. You know that you are looking at one start review by one person and other 99 five start reviews, and you are like this guy, how dare you? And you don’t think 1 in a hundred, who cares, it is fine. I am ok with that. And it took me a long time to stop focusing on that and it is still in progress.
[19:06] Friends, thanks for tuning in. Our next show is episode 491 where Jordan gave us his favorite Zig quote and value. From it we posted a question to the Ziglar social media platforms and got some incredible comments. We’ll play the clip from Jordan, then my co-host Michelle Prince and I will share the comments and talk through them with you. If you found value here, thank The Ziglar Family by leaving us a review in iTunes, we’d be incredibly grateful. Here is to you…inspiring YOUR…true performance.