What do you do to correct a bad attitude?

-Get time alone.

-Do something to actively release stress.

-Check in with your health- did you get enough sleep? Eat well?

-Serve and bless others.

-Gratitude.

-Get it out, write it down, give it to God.

-Inspiration

-If I was legendary, what would I do?

-“No” just means “next”

Show Transcription

[00:25] Welcome to The Ziglar Show, where we inspire your true performance. I’m your host Kevin Miller and we hear almost 3 minutes from Zig Ziglar where he talks about maintaining the right mental attitude. It’s a powerful message. From it I asked on Facebook, “What do you do to correct your bad attitude?” Literally, when you get angry, frustrated, disappointed, sad…what do you do to overcome it?” I received possibly the most comments ever to any question we’ve posted…you’ll be greatly intrigued to hear what people shared. Tom Ziglar and I then had a great conversation as we read through the comments, really powerful stuff.

[02:42] OK folks, here then I give you today’s lead off message from…Zig Ziglar:

 

[05:47] There you go Folks. Now let’s jump into the conversation with Tom Ziglar as he and I read through your comments:

[05:54] QUESTION: “What do you do to correct your bad attitude?” Literally, when you get angry, frustrated, disappointed, sad…what do you do to overcome it?

[06:32] TIME

Johnny Miller: I literally give myself a 20-minute timeout where I go in a room alone or if I’m at work I go outside or away from all people. And I just sit and be present. It really helps to calm me down. It doesn’t change any of the facts but it helps me be the person I want to be.

[06:52] Patricia Alton: I acknowledge what the feelings are, and look to where they REALLY came from (am I really that upset about having spilt my tea, or was the 20 things that irked me during the working day?) Then I think on how I am working to demonstrate high value behaviours, and what response best fits with that. Then choosing to act with intention rather than reaction. It has helped me manage emotions from which I previously felt overwhelmed.

[07:10] Dan Miller: I like to immediately get alone. I process it better by myself. And then I ask myself, “Is this really making me feel better? Is this helping the situation in any way? Is this the life I want?” Stoicism teaches that every time you get upset, a little life leaves the body. I know I have the choice.

[07:39] I love that, I know Dad had a great response if somebody would be asking, so I ask him something especially us kids ask him something and it was, but I don’t know if the word irritating or the wrong timing or a kind of got him upset this is what he would say it would say: if you want the answer now the answer is no but if you can wait until tomorrow then we’ll see. And boy what a great response for a parent to their kids but also when we start to feel our emotions kind of take a hold of ourselves to just give ourselves some time. For me the first thought that I have is that I get enough sleep last night. Because usually when one of my emotions start getting going, it’s not necessarily that the issue is so astronomically big, it’s that something else is going on. And responding in the moment which would really be a reaction and sort of response only makes it worse. So I love the idea of taking some time.

[08:53] PHYSIOLOGY

Stephen Blevins: I do a recount of my food intake over the last 24 hours. What I’ve eaten is a direct correlation of my emotions and ability to control them.

[09:08] Maureen Swoager: This is huge!! Avoiding gluten, sugar, dairy, chemicals is so big. Also -memorizing scripture and really taking them to heart, praying to God, If all else fails -fasting!!

[09:51] Sleep is definitely number one. Actually this morning I travelled late last night, got up super early because I was coming from the East Coast and so my clock was on daylight savings time messed up, east, west and so literally I had a conversation with myself this morning knowing that my sleep tank is not full. That I was going to take it easy on any big decisions, in other words I was not going to let a trivial or a seemingly big thing create a wave in my life based on how I knew I was feeling at that time and giving yourself that margin before it happens and out as a key to keeping your attitude up.

[11:05] FEEL IT AND LET IT GO

Jennifer Meisel: I take a walk and vent out loud to God- i probably look like a crazy person but I need physical movement to get over it

[11:13] Rob Arnold: I workout to help blow off steam.

[11:15] Jason Smith: As a youth, I used to split firewood. I always said it was a constructive way to be destructive. Which allowed for a lot of teenage hormone to be burned through. And eventually, I’d be too exhausted to to be angry. I’ve gone through periods where I make “angry art”. Pounding metal into various shapes isn’t much different from splitting wood.

[11:31] Tyson E Franklin I walk. It clears my head and allows me to reflect on what happened, how I reacted and could I have been better.

[11:56] Yeah, I try to move on a regular basis. Dad had a great quote, Zig Ziglar quote, ‘Logic will not change in emotion but action will.’ And so everybody there was just mentioning that they were having a negative emotion and so they got action to kind of get it out, there as studies been done where you could listen to kind of beat you know heavy beat, very active kind of angry music for a little while and then just start switching the talent of the music to where you end up in a let’s just call it a quiet praise and worship song in your whole disposition will change. And so it’s something about recognizing the feelings that you have validating and say you know this isn’t good but I’m going to get out and move, I’m going to get my blood flow and I’m going to get some of this tension, some of this pent up stuff out. So that’s a great break I know people who are in high stress situations, you can take that five or ten minutes break during the day and just get do a set of stairs, just get it going and then come back and it’s like that deep breath that changes everything.

[16:00] GRATITUDE

Jeff Batson: I start to think of things that I’m thankful for. I also pray, talk to God about how I feel.

[16:07] Elizabeth Roggasch: I take a deep breath, and lift up my concerns, frustrations to God and ask that He help me overcome my emotions. I thank Him for what I have and my focus is immediately changed.

[16:19] Shawn Langwell: Pause Pray Smile and find something to be grateful for.

 [16:24] Barry Barrett: Take a deep breath and remind myself that for everything that I struggle with there are billions of people who live on $2 per day.

[16:53] Yeah I have a phrase, I’m writing the book Live To Win right now and I was actually going to be a section it called the habitude of gratitude and I found I have updated it I don’t know if I was looking up been Frankland or the Noah Webster 1838 or 1828 dictionary but there’s a habitude is a word and it’s a combination of habit and attitude. I mean and so the habitude the habit the attitude of gratitude and dad said that the habits of the attitude of gratitude is the healthiest of all. Recently a study came out and it’s said kind of the opposite of gratitude as entitlement. Right if we feel entitled that we don’t get it then we feel like we’re missing out, we’re being cheated you know people are taking advantage of us and so we become easily offended we become somebody who is touchy at our nerves or you know afraid and people who have that entitlement attitude actually end up in prison, far more frequently than people who have the attitude of gratitude. And here’s why if you have an entitlement attitude or you’re not getting your fair share your fair share then you justify taking what you should you so rightly deserve even if you don’t and so you end up crossing the line over and over until you get caught. If you are grateful for all the little things that you have then somebody blesses you get overwhelmed with it but you don’t look out and jealously or envy to somebody who has more because you’re so grateful for what you do have and so those people they don’t cross that line.

[18:54] SHARE

Rocco Capra: Journal.

[18:58] Yvonne C. Hyde: Type or write out a long annoying complaint……….and then delete it before sending.

[19:03] Nicole Kristine: Lately, I have either taken to journaling my thoughts and feelings because getting it out on paper can help bring clarity & simply let out the anger.

[19:14] Matthew Adams: Call my wife Michelle, we may not agree on everything, but having an accountability partner is key. Helps me from making anger decisions vs calm decisions. We both rely upon God…but hearing a rational voice helps.

[19:25] Brooke Munson: I track my husband down for a big bear hug. Going for a walk to pray or moving to a worship song helps. Other times I find a way to help or affirm someone else.

[20:05] One of the things that we teach and in our Ziglar legacy certification, there’s a course that we teach called building the best you and we have the exercise called dump it. And what you do is you and this would work great here is you just get out a sheet of paper, and you write down something that was said to you that was hurtful, it was negative that set you back, in this case it could be something that made you angry, a relationship you’re worried about you just ride it out and then you give it away. You give it to God, you say look I can’t and I’m not dealing this anymore, I am putting it behind me, I’m dumping it. And then you literally you wipe that sheet of paper up and you know you play Michael Jordan and you toss that sheet of paper from across the room into the trash can and if you miss he run up you scoop it off the ground and you slam it down and you walk away from it. And it metaphorically it really works it really does release you. I can almost see people stand you know half an inch taller after this exercise because who needs to carry that weight around. So the idea of journaling it write it down share it with a trusted friend, those are all ways to dump it. You know one of the things I do here is I do kind of the positive opposite of this, when I’m feeling that way if I text somebody some love you know I go to one of my close friends and I just you know thinking about you grateful for you made a difference in my life and you know it’s funny because if all I need is a text, will text me back and even though they don’t know it sometimes they call me back and said how did you know I needed a call right now. Right but by reaching out to somebody who’s meant something to you in the past, they’re going to reach back and it just changes the direction of your thoughts.

[22:35] INSPIRATION

Gerry Baird: I read inspiring quotes on the internet.

[22:38] Daniel Lopez: I take a step back and re-evaluate the situation. then listen to music I can sing to. Often times I can forget a situation by singing (I do it by myself though because I’m not trying to break eardrums in the process) showers and car rides exclusively! It’s hard to be mad when you are singing your favorite songs.

[23:32] I have down and you know you create your own playlist, you know it’s so easy your iPhone or any device these days to have a playlist that I would have one playlist, you’re inspirational list you know could have upbeat songs praise and worship it, you could have Zig on it but I would have another playlist that like the first five minutes is just you know just heart pounding loud and you know maybe even kind of angry music and then to have it just shift over into you know more of the positive and how you want to feel because sometimes we just you know it’s good to just get up and jump around in you know get that stuff out create that playlist. I also have the I like drawer, at the company we do things called I like because and if you’re home with your family this is kind of cool. You just your family member you have I like at the top of the page there’s a blank rewrite their name and then the word because and so what you do is when somebody in your family or friends, somebody you love, somebody you work with you like you write their name and you tell them why and if you’re close to them just you change the cross out the word like and you put the word love. And so here in the company for thirty plus years working here I’ve got a drawer full of those bad boys. And so if I need some inspiration like you know somebody just kicked my cat. I’ll pull that drawer out now read through the years things that people have said about me and it takes me back to that moment when it happened and when they get it and it just like reviewing a victory list same kind of thing but that’s inspiration to me.

[25:45] CALL YOURSELF OUT

Christopher Lochhead: I ask myself, “If I was legendary what would I do right now?”

[26:42] I love that I’m looking it up right now we had a Rick Gray. Rick raise on my Facebook fan page or just on my Facebook, so he sends a video over any tells the story of his friend who her dad speak at one of these huge events and dad was having lunch in the V.I.P. room where people are paid extra and his friend is walking through the room and he’s got his six year old and his nine year old with him, who had heard Dad speak in the main session that morning. And he comes up any taps dad on the shoulder and he says Mr Ziglar I’m so and so and I want you to meet my two sons. And he said Dad stood up, turned around, got down on a knee, looked at the two boys, put his hands on the first one, the six years old spun him around looked at him and then did the same thing with the nine years old and said Yup I knew it. And the boy said knew what and he said I can tell I’m from a mile away, you two are winners. And I’ve heard fifty people tell me that story since Dad passed away. And that is legendary and the point is that I sit here and I say to myself how many times have I had the chance to do that. Right because you know you’re out in public you meet somebody they say hey this is our son Johnny, you know he’s seven and just to lean over a little bit and do that one thing.

[31:34] COMEDY RELIEF

Dave Munson: I throw things around, break stuff over my knee and punch someone in the lip and then the bad attitude just seems to go away. It’s how I turn my frown upside down.

[32:26] RESPONSIBLE

Logan Kimberly Ritchhart: For me … this is a constant in my life… its to easy to be negative and/or have a bad attitude when I don’t like a situation or event. When confronted with this…before I even open my mouth… the very next thought is… how is this affecting everyone around me? I confess this is extremely hard to do… but I am responsible for the energy I bring into a room.

[32:50] Cassandra Higginbotham: I used to get easily irritated or annoyed & would let it ruin my entire day. It literally takes a toll on your body more than an intense workout. These days I’m much different & I ask myself, how is this anger or frustration going to help me?

[33:04] Kimberley Wiggins: I mainly self reflect. So when I calm down, I can usually see the forest for the trees somewhat and I think about what I should have done. I always realize that I give away a great deal of my power when I get angry, frustrated or upset especially if I lose it. So I make a concerted effort to pinpoint on something of gratitude the next time I feel that I am getting a bad attitude.

[34:38] You know for me, part of it is reframing and for those of you who are in sales or in you in a business where you get told No a lot, I was having a sales conversation today and one of the things that I’m really excited about is we’re developing a new relationship, a new partnership with Sandler sales and one of the Sandler things that they say is no means next. Actually you know what when you have best a lot of time into something whether it’s a sale situation a relationship moving a project forward and you get the know, if you have pre-planned in your mind that no simply means next. Then that is a different situation because what we’re looking for is you know the reality is the more problems we saw with the more successful, we become the more people that we help. And so when we when we get a no for somebody it frees us to find the next person we can help, the next sale that we can make, the next relationship that we can get invested in and it’s very very difficult it’s hard it’s a lot of maturity to look at it that way and sometimes you’ve got to you know you’ve got to get new told know four or five times but the reality is there is always a next. And so the question we’ve got to ask ourselves is our current response or reaction delaying the next next. And so what we’ve we’ve got to get focused on what we can do dad said this and he said it’s not negative to identify a problem but it’s negative to focus on it. So we identified the problem and then we focused on the solution and that is really a sign of sure and so if you could like, if you could have a mental model that says ok some things happen I don’t like OK, what’s my response. OK I’m going to make the decision just to do the autopsy, what did I do wrong what could have done better and then I’m going to move as quickly as possible to the next.

[43:49] OK friends, I hope you got some ideas on how you can better deal with your bad attitude. If you got value, would you let us know by leaving a review in iTunes? That’s the best way to say thanks. Coming up next in show 558 we bring you…Stu McClaren. Stu McLaren coaches and consults New York Times best-selling authors, top-rated speakers, experts and niche celebrities on how to launch, grow and scale high-profit recurring revenue streams, but his primary forte is helping people launch and grow profitable and fulfilling membership sites where the point is…human connection and relationships. In the show we talk about Stu’s personal journey that brought him such huge success and why he’s not devoted himself in his work to helping people connect, and through that in his personal life, helping some of the least fortunate on earth…he and his wife build schools in Kenya. You wil be inspired. Till then…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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